7 Things Your Teenager Wants You To Know

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Somewhere between childhood and adulthood, nestled in pretty ambiguous, murky and undefined time in a person’s life, is teenagehood. It’s something all parents get warned about, usually through whispers and little-dropped hints, each of them delivered by grey-haired parents with more lifelines than an old avocado. But for teenager’s, it’s something even worse entirely.

 

It’s one of the most confusing stretches of time they will ever get slapped with, where their bodies are changing, their mindset has to adapt and they fast have to make the transition from being your baby to being their own person, able to navigate the world on their own two feet, and that requires a certain understanding from you.

 

There is no parental roadmap to help guide you. There is no blueprint that explains the best way you can do right by your teenage kids. There is no step-by-step guide that you can study while helping your once tiny offspring grow up. But there are a few things your teenage kids want you to know that will help them out big time. And, no, we’re not making these up. We’re taking these from Reddit posts and directly from the source, meaning you can trust they are feelings all teenagers share.  

 

So, without further ado, here are some things every teenager wishes their parent knew about them:

 

  1. The Disappointing You Thing Sucks

No teen sets out to purposely disappoint their parents, but sometimes they do, and they know they do. Yes, you warned them that doing such and such would be a mistake and that you could guarantee this would happen because you did the same thing, but teens need to learn on their own accord too. They want to please and avoid disappointing you, but they are only human, and one’s learning hard and fast at that, so no matter how they might respond after doing something “disappointing”, know it crushes their spirit too.

 

  1. Don’t Read Their Journals-Slash-Diaries

As parents, we all want to better understand out teenagers, especially when you’re butting heads with one another and communication has fallen by the wayside. But, please, if they keep a journal or diary or somewhere to jot their swirling and whirling thoughts, refrain from picking it up and reading it. They may not be telling you something right now, but they will eventually, in their own time, when they have figured out exactly what they want to say. In the meantime, it’s your job to just be their friend and support them no matter what. Trust us, if your kid has something that’s big to them to say, such as coming out, and you already know because you read their journal, it will be humiliating. The words in a journal are for their eyes only – what they tell you is for you.

 

  1. Stop Saying “Because I Said So”

The reason for this is simple: it’s not a valid answer. Nor is it a rational one. Think about it for a second. If you can’t be bothered to take the time to explain your reasons, then how can you possibly expect your teenager to respect them? The answer is: you can’t. We’re not saying that explaining your reasons will prevent every argument from happening, but it will prevent some and give you a better grounding. Just saying ‘because I said so’ every time your kid questions you will only lead to a bad relationship.

 

  1. Their Bedroom Is Their Sanctuary

Every teen needs their own space for some peace and quiet and solitude, and it will help your relationship if you give it to them. Let them have somewhere to escape, somewhere to sulk, somewhere to phone their BFFs in private, and make sure your download speed is top notch so they can play video games with their mates online. If they do storm off and slam the door, give them a minute to breathe and think and then knock to request a chat. By doing so, you will allow them to escape in some way, and all teens need that feeling or they will start to suffocate.

 

  1. Say Sorry When You Mess Up

We all expect our kids to say sorry when they mess up, so don’t for one second think you can move the goalposts, brush over it or make excuses when you do. Parents can’t always be right and kids can’t always be wrong, that’s not fair. Instead, show your teenager how to say sorry, lead them in the right direction, teach them the importance of owning their mistakes and show that saying sorry when you mess up is a good thing.

 

  1. Really, Really Listen To Them Speak

The world of a teenager is a complex and odd one and, usually, they don’t understand it themselves. It’s confusing. That’s why you need to really listen to them, try to understand their world, their life and their views. Don’t just talk at them because you think you know best, but talk with them. Talk over their thoughts and feelings. Listen to your teenager even when they don’t say anything. Just be there for them and reach out when you think they need you.

 

  1. Their Problems Are Real Too

No, they might not have to put food on the table, keep a roof over the head, manage as a single parent, find ways to get a promotion or deal with the pressures of adulthood, but don’t discount their struggles and stresses because they are real to them. Their world might well be different than your world, and the world they live in now is probably worlds away from the one you lived in as a teen, but they still need to know you care. They need to know their life and worries and struggles are cared about, so try and understand them. Try and empathise a bit more. Try to see why they are feeling how they are.

 

The teenage years are a challenge for both you (the parent) and them (the teen). But the sooner you can understand this, the sooner you will be able to overcome the challenges as a team.

Kids CAN Eat Healthily With Your Encouragement

If there is one bugbear of every parent, it’s the picky eater. Almost every family has one and it’s the one thing that throws up roadblocks at meal times. Creating an environment where food is something that your children enjoy is so important for stress-free mealtimes. The most important thing is that your children are eating a healthy and balanced diet and encouraging this is going to be crucial for your child and their growth.

The difficulty comes where you have a picky eater who will only eat beige food. Or cold food. Or food from the freezer, because your homemade fries in the air fryer oven just aren’t the same as the ones from the bag. I know, it’s annoying and frustrating because you’re making your best homemade meals, and your children are turning up their noses. You need to think about how to encourage your children to eat well, and below we’ve got some tips to get you started.

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No Restrictions. When you sit at the table and you catch yourself saying no to dessert unless plates are clean, did you know you could be fostering bad habits for your child? Restricting certain sweet foods and fatty foods based on not wanting them to overeat is going to go against you in the future. Kids are susceptible to eating disorders and this has to be something that you avoid. Placing restrictions on food can lead to that. Instead, offer healthy swaps and allow sweet foods to be a part of their healthy diet.

Open Bowl. The fruit bowl on the table is always full, but if children don’t feel they can take without permission, there’s a problem. Opt for an open bowl policy, whereby fruits and vegetables can be eaten whenever they want them. Children will be far more relaxed about eating healthy food if they are allowed them whenever they like.

Praise, Don’t Nag. If you catch your child eating an apple, show them your approval at their snack of choice. Proud smiles, praise and an approving nod can go a long way to uplifting their self-esteem.

Cook Together. When it comes to the snacks that are under the ‘junk’ umbrella, why not cook together and create healthy versions of junk snacks. If you get them involved in making baked tortilla chips and homemade salsa, you can encourage healthy food while educating them on how to make an unhealthy snack healthier.

Control. Sometimes, children feel they have no control over their eating. It’s good to let them help you make the grocery list and the menu for the house when you write down the food you want to make for the week.

Children are intelligent, even the picky ones! The picky eaters in your home need to be taught about food; where it comes from and how to make it and the best food to eat. All you have to do is be the person educating them and give them some time to come around. It won’t happen overnight, so have patience.

End of Summer Checklist for Your Home

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Even though we still have some more summer weeks left to enjoy, it won’t be too long until the leaves start changing colours and fall arrives once again. And when the weather does start to get cooler once again, you need to make sure that your home is fully prepared for it. To give you a helping hand, we are going to be running through an end of summer checklist right here, so that you are ready to batten down the hatches, make your home more efficient and prepare for more time spent indoors.

 

Clean Out the Gutters

 

All sorts of bits of debris can get stuck in your gutters during the summer months including leaves, sticks etc. And when autumn comes along, you are going to need to clear them out with a greater level of frequency. Giving them a big end of summer clearout will help to prepare you for this. You could even consider upgrading to seamless gutters or install some gutter guards, which will help to reduce instances of clogging and increase overall safety.

 

Secure Your Windows

 

The summer provides a great opportunity to inspect your windows and decide whether or not it is time to get some replacement window ideas before the winter arrives and everyone else starts trying to do exactly the same thing. Even if you decide not to go for a complete replacement, you could still make sure that they are properly sealed with some caulking or weatherproofing solutions. Now is the time to deal with draughts, before they become a major problem in winter.

 

Prepare to Retire Your Outdoor Living Room

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Many people keep all their furniture out during the summer months, but there comes a time of year when you need to store it all away again. You also need to make sure that your decks, fences, and other outdoor wooden items have the level of protection that they require when they are battling the winter elements. For example, applying a sealant stain and double checking the overall stability of the deck will go a long way.

 

Check the Roof

 

If you are planning to inspect the roof yourself, your safety should obviously take precedence. And if there is any major repair work which needs to be undertaken, you are probably better off calling in the professionals to take care of this for you. Look out for any shingles which are curling or ones that look easily breakable. Repairing or replacing your roof is never going to be a task which is particularly enjoyable, but if you take care of it early before winter arrives, you will be able to complete the task so much better.

 

Though you may not want to think about summer ending just yet, if you are prepared, you make it more likely that you won’t have to complete any big and difficult jobs when the winter months arrive. These are just four of the tasks which are worth ticking off your to-do list when you can.

Is Your Home An Easy Target For Burglars?

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Want to keep burglars away from your home? The majority of burglars like to do their research before breaking into a property – this could include scanning for weaknesses or checking which belonging are in sight. Here are several steps that you can take to stop your home being an easy target for these criminals.

 

Repair damaged windows and doors

 

Many burglars will look out for signs of damage on doors and windows – these can often make easy entry points. Consider looking into services such as window glass replacement or door replacements if any of these are broken and currently boarded up. Also consider broken locks or weak hinges. Many modern doors have solid frames and robust locks that can’t be broken into easily. You can even consider reinforced glass on windows.

 

Install exterior lighting

 

Burglars are more likely to try and break into your home if they can do it unseen. Adding exterior lighting to your home makes it much more difficult to a burglar to attempt a break in without being seen by a neighbour. Motion sensing lighting is often the best option – you won’t use up unnecessary energy keeping the light on throughout the night as it will only turn on when the movement of someone is detected.

 

Cut down that high hedge

 

A high hedge in front of your home could also make it easy for a burglar to break in without being seen by neighbours. Consider cutting down any high walls or hedges that could be obstructing the front of your home.

 

Draw the curtains/blinds

 

Taking down a high hedge could remove some of your privacy, but you can still stop potential burglars peeking in and looking at your possessions by drawing the curtains and blinds whenever you’re not it. Having net curtains permanently hung up over windows could allow you to see out whilst letting in the light, but could prevent burglars looking in – this could be particularly worth having if you live on a busy road in which many passers-by can peer in.

 

Consider fitting a burglar alarm

 

A burglar alarm may seem like a drastic measure, but in certain neighbourhoods it can be handy to have. An alarm will notify neighbours but more importantly it may cause burglars to abandon their plans if they break into your door and an alarm sounds. You can buy alarm systems that link up to all your doors and windows.

 

Hide/lock away expensive garden belongings

 

Some burglars won’t even attempt to break into your house – there may be some easy pickings in the garden. Expensive garden furniture, lawnmowers and gas/electric barbecues are some of the most popular items to steal. You can deter burglars by not having these items on display when you’re not using them. Covering them up could be enough, but you could make these belongings even more secure by locking them away in a shed.

How Energy Efficient Is Your Home?

If you are looking for ways to make sure that your home is as green and environmental as possible, then energy efficiency is definitely going to be one of the main things that you need to look into. As long as your home’s energy efficient, you can be sure that it is also going to be much more environmentally friendly, and for that reason you will want to know what you can be doing in order to be sure of this. In this article, we are going to look at some of the best ways in which your home can be energy efficient, so that you can be sure that you are actually living in an environmentally friendly home. Let’s take a look and think about what mich need changing in most homes.

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Water Usage

 

One of the most important way that you could try to be more efficient in the home is in the way that you use water. Clearly, you want to use it as little as possible, and that is going to be one of the first things that you need to think about. Keeping your water usage down is not actually altogether that difficult, so long as you make sure that you are being conscious about your water usage and that you are doing whatever you can rto reduce it. This is where basic, hands-on approaches become much more important, and where the simple act of being careful with the washing up or who you water the garden can make all the difference. Make these small effortless changes, and you will find that you are using less water on the whole, so it really is worth looking at in this way.

 

Beyond just trying to use water less, you should also look into whether the way that you use it is energy efficient too. One of the most important concerns here is how you heat it, as that is obviously going to use energy to do. If you want to make sure that your water heating is much more energy efficient, then you might want to change to tankless water heater as a means of heating your water. These heaters are much more energy efficient, cheaper to run, and they are easy to find and install as well. Alternately, something like a ground source heat pump can be a fairly good and environmental way of keeping your home more energy efficient. As long as you are thinking about your water, where it comes from, how much you use, and how it is heard, you will find you can make some important changes here.

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Insulation

 

Probably the first thing that people think of when they are trying to make their home more energy efficient is the insulation. If you have proper insulation throughout the home, then it means that the building loses less of its heat. This results in the need to heat it artificially less and less, which in itself saves a lot of energy. So if you have good insulation, you will find that it both directly and indirectly helps to make your home much more energy efficient. Of course, there are a few potential issues you might well run into when it comes to insulation, and it’s worth thinking about what they are to begin with, so that you know what you are doing before you set out.

 

First of all, consider that there is likely to be a cost involved for installing insulation, so you really want to make sure that you don’t have it first before you get it installed. You should also bear in mind that not all insulation is made equal, and just because you have some does not mean that the insulation type you have is any good or that it is as good as it could be. If you think you do need to install some insulation, make sure you look around for both the best deal for yourself, but also the most effective. If you are to be spending your money, you want to make sure that you are really getting insulation which is going to make a profound difference to your home.

 

There are a few main areas in the home which will need insulating, primarily the walls and roof. As long as you can find some decent insulation for those areas, you will be able to enjoy a much warmer, and more energy efficient, home for the near future and beyond.

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Windows

 

The windows are another important place to regard, primarily because a lot of heat can be lost there as well. Of course, it goes without saying that there will be many occasions when you need to have the windows open, and in fact getting a good flow of air is necessary in order to be healthy in your home. But you should seriously look into whether you can find some more energy efficient windows than you currently have, as you might be surprised to discover that they can vary quite a lot in how efficient they are. As long as your windows are highly efficient, it will make a huge difference to the whole house in general, so this is definitely something that you want to think about if you are serious about making your home more energy efficient. Pay attention to the windows, how well sealed they are and so on, and you will be able to enjoy a much warmer and more environmentally friendly home.

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Doors

Finally, remember too that a lot of heat can be lost through the doors, and you need to make sure that they seal well and that they are thick enough to keep the warmth in as best as possible. What’s more, thicker and heavier doors will also mean that you have a safer home, so it is definitely a good idea to look into this if you want to make sure of that too. If you think your door needs repairing or replacing, them see to it as soon as you can. Remember too that you need to think about all doors around the house, including any back doors you might have and any garage doors as well.

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